Tuesday, February 12, 2008

Before the advent of Valentine's Day

11:41pm, 12-Feb 08, Hanoi, Vietnam.

2 days to go before the advent of Valentine's Day. A day where most lovers will get together to share their experiences experienced throughout their life being a couple or blossoming of a new affair. Couples of my good friends had had been in the state of emotionally challenging, challenge in the sense of break ups, seeing their long last lover dreadfully to be with other known friends or merrily together with their new partners.

Due to these challenges, they would and will....., will find other couples immediately just to:

1. Fill the empty gap of loneliness?
2. To forget the past and positively move forwards ignorantly?
3. To shield the already bleeding heart from a treacherous dagger?
4. To show off that you can easily get a new couple even though you dumped me?

All in all, believe me, these sentiments will again prevail during the day of Valentine, the flashback of the sweet time with your old partner, flips-flops with bitterness of recent tragedy.

Few observation and listening I did to my fellow friends. I have known them for quite a period of time. I would say, they can be a reasonable perfect husband/bf/gf in giving out care, trust, love and financially solid for years to come. However, as time passes by, the standard of living has been increased not only inflation, fuel prices, raw materials just to name a few, but increased in standard emotional needs too.

Emotion plays an important role, majority constitutes the "sense of security". And security consist of financial stability, loyalties, faithfulness, trustworthiness and love. The context of financial stability is always the culprit especially in city center everywhere in the world.

The most painful moment observed is during where they suspect their loves one started to have had relationship with other but keep in denial state when confronted. It keeps dragging on and on with suspicion overlapped with trust on her for almost 6 months, she admitted eventual. It's nothing wrong to start a fresh relationship however, you have to make things clean and clear cut by not dragging or unconsciously giving false hope to the current partner.

Try to unleash your power of imagination, a dagger was being trusted deep down into your heart, it's always good for everyone that you pulled out immediately rather than fiddling on the dagger as to which direction to pull off according to your unconscious wimps & fancy and that's the most torturous if compared to immediate withdrawal of the dagger!

Sometimes, it's hard for them (those in denial state of about to get into new relationship) to speak the truth as they always wanted a security. Security of having the old partner while venturing for a new. If somehow fails, at least they can fall back to their old. Feared the condition of failure, where nobody to fall back on at the end? Feared being lonely while in dormancy? I rest my case.

I'm really pity with my good friends as I only can advise the other party to be as decisive asap rather than dragging on :(.

Preston, better still, cease yapping and get back to your road towards millionaire or else you will be the next victim or you yourselves already one of the victims, I wonder? Enough said.

Happy Valentine from Hanoi, Vietnam.

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